Arguably there is nothing more important than you.
“WHAT!” some people might say. “Dont you have a child?” But, hey, hoooold your horses now just one second and let me explain. This isn’t some egocentric choice of words from an ill-mannered millennial. These are the words and the phrase that everyone needs to remember every single day of their lives when it comes to the well-being of themselves and those that we love. I’m a mom, I’m a daughter, I’m many other things but I’m talking put your damn oxygen mask on before you even think about trying to help somebody else, even your kids.
In this sense, there is nothing more important than you. Meaning your mental health, your physical health and your well-being should be at the top of your priority list, day in and day out. Why? Because without putting you first— your body, your mind and your soul cannot function to its greatest potential. Without putting you first, the mom, the father, the sister, the brother, the friend, the employee, the partner in you cannot then function or love to her/or his greatest potential either.
I am somebody who has struggled with anxiety my whole life and depression at times. Seven years ago I was diagnosed with PTSD. I can tell you that without focusing on these specific areas of my life, making them a top priority and choosing to get help: I would not be able to be the mother that I am today. As a parent your happiness is your child’s happiness and the greatest gift you can give your child is a healthy parent. The greatest gift you can give to yourself is a healthy you.
In the mind, in the body and in the spirit.
Often this can mean sacrifice… if it means seeking help, if it means missing events, if it means not being invited places anymore (because you always say no), if it means taking long breaks from social media, if it means eating a balanced diet, if it means going to the gym even though you loathe the gym, if it means putting the kids to bed an hour earlier so you can have an extra hour for self-care. If it means booking that trip, if it means going after that job you love knowing some nights you won’t be home to make dinner. Or saying “f*ck it I quit that job! I want to be home to make dinner” Whatever it means to you—
Our health is so important and with this short time we have here on this Earth I hope we can help one another: Talk more about the things that are difficult to us, end the stigmas and spread more awareness about the challenges we face. Let’s talk about what we can do to overcome them! In the grand scheme of things we are not alone, somebody somewhere has dealt with something too so why not help each other out. Help one another learn, heal, grow and improve. For our best selves and those we love.
With that, in this section please expect different coping mechanisms, “things learned in therapy,” health-conscious recipes, mental health honesty, and much much more.
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